Kids have an emotional tank that needs filling, and words are some of the most powerful fuel around.
Between lunchboxes, mismatched socks, and that never-ending pile of laundry, it’s easy to forget just how much our words matter.
A few well-chosen phrases can lift your child’s spirits, build their confidence, and remind them they are seen—even if you can’t find their missing shoe.
Here’s a treasure trove of things to say that can work magic on your child’s heart, even on the busiest days.
1. I Love Spending Time With You
Children crave connection more than chocolate biscuits (and that’s saying something). Telling them that their company is a joy, not a duty, shows they’re valued just as they are.
2. You Make Me Smile
Most kids have a knack for making us laugh—often on purpose, sometimes by accident (“Mum, why do your legs have fur?”). Letting them know they brighten your day, even with the smallest antics, matters.
3. You Worked So Hard On That
Effort deserves recognition. Focusing on the process rather than the outcome encourages resilience, as child development experts highlight in this piece on the power of a growth mindset. Read more.
4. I’m Proud Of You
Not just for big achievements, but for kindness, trying something new, or managing a tricky feeling. Sprinkle liberally, not just at awards nights.
5. I Love How Curious You Are
Curiosity is the rocket fuel for learning. If your little one asks “why” for the hundredth time, it’s a feature, not a bug.
6. You Are Really Good At Sharing
Spot positive behaviour in the wild! Pointing out when your child is generous with their toys (or, if miracles happen, their snacks) reinforces empathy.
7. I Trust You
Handing over a small responsibility—feeding the goldfish, carrying the groceries—signals that you believe in their capabilities.
8. You Make Our Family Better
Every member brings something unique to the party. Remind your child of the value they add just by being themselves.
9. I’m Listening
Active listening means putting the phone down and really hearing them out. Even when the story meanders. Especially then.
10. Thanks For Helping Me
Everyone likes to feel needed and appreciated. When your child pitches in, let them know their efforts matter (even when the “help” is questionable).
11. You’re Allowed To Feel Upset
Feelings are not the enemy. Validating emotions is a cornerstone of emotional intelligence, according to this research on emotional validation and child development. Read more.
12. I’m Always Here For You
Kids need to know you’re steady through the storms. Reminding them of your presence—good days, bad days, all the days—gives deep reassurance.
13. I Love Watching You Play
Even if the fifteenth round of hide-and-seek has you considering new career options, your attention signals to your child that their joy matters.
14. Your Ideas Are Interesting
Whether it’s a new way to build a LEGO bridge or a theory about why the moon follows the car, let them know their thoughts are worth sharing.
15. You’re So Creative
Creativity isn’t just painting or drawing; it’s inventing games, stories, jokes—sometimes incredibly elaborate excuses for not going to bed.
16. You’re Growing Every Day
Growth is more than centimetres and shoe sizes. Spotting personal growth—like sharing more easily or bouncing back from disappointment—builds confidence.
17. You’re A Good Friend
When your child sticks up for a mate at school or shares a treat at lunch, let them know you noticed.
18. You Make Me Think
Kids have a strange way of flipping the world upside down in a single question. Admitting they’ve taught you something strengthens your connection.
19. I Love Your Laugh
That giggle is infectious. Bottling it would be a bestseller, but a compliment will have to do.
20. You Did The Right Thing
Ethics in action! Recognising when your child makes a tough but good choice builds their moral compass.
21. I Believe In You
Sometimes a child just needs someone in their corner, especially when they’re doubting themselves.
22. I Love You No Matter What
Unconditional love is the safest net. Even after the crayon mural in the lounge room.
23. Tell Me More About That
Invite them to share their world. Sometimes it’s dragons; sometimes it’s the nuanced politics of Year Two. Either way, questions matter.
24. It’s Okay To Make Mistakes
Perfectionism has no place in childhood—or adulthood, for that matter. Mistakes are the best teachers.
25. You’re Brave
Bravery isn’t just for superheroes. Trying something new, apologising, or standing up for what’s right all count.
26. You’re Important To Me
Concrete assurance that they matter, especially on days when the world feels big and they feel small.
27. It’s Great How You Keep Trying
Perseverance is not natural for everyone (just ask anyone who’s tried to assemble IKEA furniture solo). Reinforce those moments when your child doesn’t give up.
28. I’m Lucky To Be Your Parent
No one wants to feel like just another item on a to-do list. Remind your child that you feel grateful, not just responsible.
29. You Make The World Better
Grand? Maybe. But the world changes in small ways, and your child is already making ripples.
30. You Have A Kind Heart
Kindness is underrated. Point out the times your child uses their heart, not just their head.
31. You’re Fun To Be Around
Every child lights up a room in their own special way (yes, even the ones who are ‘spirited’ at bedtime).
32. I Enjoy Seeing You Learn New Things
Learning is a lifelong journey, not a destination. Show enthusiasm for their small and big discoveries.
33. I See How Hard You’re Trying
There’s a special kind of magic in effort. Acknowledge it, especially when the task is tough.
34. You’re Full Of Great Ideas
Inventions, stories, or “let’s make a fort from all the sofa cushions”—encourage the lot.
35. I Love Your Energy
Whether it’s gentle or wild, every child’s energy is their own superpower (even if it means your lounge looks like a post-cyclone zone).
36. You’re Thoughtful
Notice when your child remembers someone’s birthday or offers to share their snack. Thoughtfulness is gold.
37. Thank You For Being You
Forget achievements for a second. Just being themselves is enough reason for gratitude.
38. I Love Watching You Figure Things Out
Puzzle-solving faces are a thing of beauty. Let them know you appreciate their effort and determination.
39. You Make Hard Things Look Easy
When your child tackles a new challenge, give a nod to their adaptability—even if you know they’re paddling furiously under the surface.
40. That Was Very Responsible
Responsibility grows when it’s recognised. Even small wins count.
41. I’m Here If You Want To Talk
Open the door. No pressure, but the invitation stands.
42. You’re Special To Me
Special doesn’t need a reason. Sometimes it’s just the truth.
43. You Light Up My Day
Some kids literally light up a room. Others just brighten your world by being in it.
44. I Notice How You Care About Others
Empathy in action is worth its weight in gold stars.
45. You’re Learning Every Day
Remind them that growth is constant, even when they don’t see it.
46. It’s Okay To Be Yourself
There is only one them. Encourage authenticity.
47. I Love How You Try New Things
Whether it’s a strange food or a scary slide, trying new things deserves a cheer.
48. You Make Me So Happy
Children often feel responsible for grown-up moods. Make sure they know they’re a joy.
49. Watching You Grow Up Is Wonderful
The journey is bittersweet, but sharing your pride and wonder means the world.
50. I Love You
Nothing fancy required. Three little words, infinite power.
Filling Their Cup—One Phrase At A Time
You don’t need to deliver all 50 every day (unless you fancy confusing your child with an emotional word avalanche). Pick the ones that fit your child and your day.
The common thread? Each phrase reminds them they’re loved, capable, and more than enough.
Busy days will never disappear, but a few heartfelt words can linger long after the dinner plates are cleared and the lights go out.
Your voice is one of the greatest gifts you can give. Use it often—and watch your child’s heart grow.
