Strong families raise strong daughters, but at the end of the day, it’ll be love that nurtures them. It’ll be kindness that comforts them. It’ll be empowerment that strengthens them. Your daughter could very well take the world by storm, but it’ll be her parents prepping her for that journey!
Remind your daughter that they can be assertive and proactive through life. They should feel comfortable in their own skin and brave enough to speak out when they disagree. A strong daughter also needs to temper her strength and courage with wisdom at pivotal times.
There’s more to strength than stubbornness. Strong people should be firm in their convictions, but also ready to recognize, acknowledge, and learn from their own mistakes. This strength is cultivated at home through kindness and compassion, so set a solid example for them to follow.
Quotes for Assertiveness and Initiative
It might seem strange to say, but assertiveness takes support to develop. A lot of families mistake assertiveness for disrespect, treating it accordingly until the former ends up gone entirely.
You want to make sure your daughter can maintain this confidence – even when it seems a little grating on your nerves. For example, if your daughter insists that they were right, hear them out and engage the topic rather than overruling them with your authority.
By listening and discussing, you reaffirm that their input is being valued. You encourage your daughter to approach these topics with critical thinking and logic. This validates their perspective and teaches them to apply this approach to other encounters in life.
By overruling them, you simply cultivate the mindset that authority is to be obeyed blindly. You teach them that the world will not listen to her, so she’d be more likely to save her breath on opinions that won’t be recognized and simply do whatever she’s told to.
Assertiveness and initiative go both ways – if you’re raising a daughter with these principles, be prepared for her to apply them while interacting with you. You can’t just expect her to figure it out when she has no role models practicing what they preach.
How you respond to these attempts will determine her approach moving forward, so be mindful of the example you set. Your daughter will be a trailblazer: focus on readying her up for the ride rather than blockading her before she even begins.
- “I’m not going to limit myself just because people won’t accept the fact that I can do something else.” – Diana Ross
- “Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.” – Mary Kay Ash
- “Attempt the impossible in order to improve your work.” – Bette Davis
- “Never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.” – Clementine Paddleford
- “You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’” – Eleanor Roosevelt
- “Absolutely, I don’t believe in rules. As I tell my daughter when she is mischievous, ‘Well-behaved women rarely make history.’” – Nia Vardalos
- “I can never be safe; I always try and go against the grain. As soon as I accomplish one thing, I just set a higher goal. That’s how I’ve gotten to where I am.” – Beyoncé
- “The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who’s going to stop me.” – Ayn Rand, novelist
- “I’m going to do what I want to do. I’m going to be who I really am. I’m going to figure out what that is” – Emma Watson
As a parent, your job is to give her somewhere firm and safe to stand proud. Prepare her best you can until she’s ready to rise to any occasion the world throws her way.
Quotes for Confidence and Security
No matter how much you love your daughter, it won’t amount to much without telling her. Security is the foundation of self-esteem. Validation and praise are the building blocks for the structure.
Think about what’s stopping you – right now – from walking up to your daughter and giving them a big, long hug. What’s stopping you from letting them know you’re proud of them?
You might not be used to it, or you might not be in the mood for it. That’s perfectly fine, but those gestures add up in your daughter’s mind. Make sure you treat her kindly at every opportunity.
Your daughter won’t outgrow her place in your heart, but she won’t be little forever! One day, you’ll pick up and carry your daughter in your arms for the last time.
Time goes by fast, so make the most of what you have while you’ve got it. Remind her just how much she’s loved because these moments will mean the world to her. Remind your daughter of how strong she is, and how much stronger she’ll grow in both conviction and wisdom.
Most importantly, give your daughter some joy to look back on. This will be her bedrock in times of turmoil, so build it with her with all the love at your disposal.
- “My daughter, while we have had adversity, we also have had more sweet memories that allow us to overcome the challenges we faced.” – Ann Butler
- “Always remember, you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – A. A. Milne
- “I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself.” – Emma Stone
- “We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing must be attained.” – Marie Curie
- “I desire to have a life filled with positive energy and satisfaction of living authentically in my purpose. That’s what I also want for my daughter, and that is what I want for you.” – Keya Briscoe
- “To our daughter: “I am come back to you – I am come back home – for refuge – to tell you everything.” – George Eliot
- “Because confidence is really trust in yourself, right? It has nothing to do with what someone else thinks of you; it’s what you think of you.” – Chrissy Metz
- “What I wanted most for my daughter was that she be able to soar confidently in her own sky, wherever that might be, and if there was space for me as well, I would, indeed, have reaped what I had tried to sow.” – Helen Claes
- “Daughters can sometimes be too serious, teach them to laugh and not take life too seriously.” – Catherine Pulsifer
Quotes for Discernment and Understanding
Your daughter will have so much potential in the palm of her hand, but what she makes of her courage and conviction depends entirely on her character. What does she believe in? Why is that so? What will she make of everything she’d learned?
Discernment and understanding are crucial to your daughter’s success. Strength needs a purpose, and she must find hers the long way – through experience, like everyone else.
Guide her to these beliefs and convictions, but let your daughter decide what lessons she wants to take for her own development. Equip your daughter to see the world, but allow her to be the judge of the view. Let her become the best version of herself, according to her own preferences.
As a parent, provide your daughter with experience and perspective. Trust the rest to her.
- “In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
- “It’s your job as a parent to help your daughter identify her purpose, develop her talents, and learn how to get along with people. It’s not a high-paying or cushy job, but it is extremely rewarding and, in our opinion, one of the most important jobs you’ll ever do.” –Mary Anne Richey
- “If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” –Maya Angelou
- “So, after much observation, I realized that our daughters needed the same things we lacked in our younger years… wisdom. Without wisdom we continue to blunder through life repeating the same mistakes.” – Laura Alexander
- “If you don’t accept failure as a possibility, you don’t set high goals, you don’t branch out, you don’t try – you don’t take the risk.” – Rosalynn Carter
- “The golden rule of parenting is to always show your children the kind of person you want them to be. Remember that children are impressionable. If you wish to have a well-mannered, kind and honest daughter, do your best to show these characteristics to her.” – Elizabeth Roxas
Your daughter’s strength will be founded on love, courage, and wisdom. It will be built from what she sees and experiences at home, then refined with practice within her home. Help her learn the virtues she needs to stand firm in life, but let her walk the path she sees fit.